Comments on: Lemme clarify something http://www.formerlyhot.com/2008/12/lemme-clarify-something/ The tween site for adults Wed, 08 Feb 2012 18:02:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Marlene http://www.formerlyhot.com/2008/12/lemme-clarify-something/comment-page-1/#comment-348 Marlene Sun, 21 Dec 2008 21:22:27 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/index.php/2008/12/19/lemme-clarify-something/#comment-348 I wasn't offended at all - there's a difference between boasting, and actually stating what is/was so for you. We all got away with something when we were younger, and if you had looks and used them, hey - great for you! I know I did. And I also have noticed that all of sudden (OK, maybe it's been gradual and I've been in denial), "they" aren't marketing to me any more. And I'm not "getting" the current fashions, or I'm noticing that the current fashions are coming around again. And Chico's makes tops that cover my upper arms ;-) And while I still feel permanently 28, my knees are a little more whiny, and I have to stretch a lot more to feel normal. I've got a lot of "formelies". I suspect that stating what was true for you only has people who aren't as confident, or who are envious, react the way they do. Hey - you're giving me the space the do the same! Thanks! I wasn’t offended at all - there’s a difference between boasting, and actually stating what is/was so for you. We all got away with something when we were younger, and if you had looks and used them, hey - great for you! I know I did. And I also have noticed that all of sudden (OK, maybe it’s been gradual and I’ve been in denial), “they” aren’t marketing to me any more. And I’m not “getting” the current fashions, or I’m noticing that the current fashions are coming around again. And Chico’s makes tops that cover my upper arms ;-) And while I still feel permanently 28, my knees are a little more whiny, and I have to stretch a lot more to feel normal. I’ve got a lot of “formelies”.

I suspect that stating what was true for you only has people who aren’t as confident, or who are envious, react the way they do. Hey - you’re giving me the space the do the same! Thanks!

]]> By: Dolores Hayes http://www.formerlyhot.com/2008/12/lemme-clarify-something/comment-page-1/#comment-347 Dolores Hayes Sun, 21 Dec 2008 13:34:03 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/index.php/2008/12/19/lemme-clarify-something/#comment-347 ha! I do get it. I don't identify at all, though. That's one of the nice things about never having been hot. I don't feel a sense of loss. The funny thing is, it's quite the opposite. Intellectually, I know that men are not, in general, stalking the 47 year old flabby Jewish girl, yet the kind of men *I* like seem more in abundance, and there are more that like me. The people once out of my league are now in it, somehow...perhaps because the leagues have changed, and the kind of men they were at 20 are not the kind they are ate 45-65 (my demo! and, ahem, older, as John shows) I also feel like I'm just, I dunno, better company? more fun? than I was at 25, and there are enough people who recognize that to be gratifying. True, invisibility is around the corner, but if someone told me I'd feel more desirable at 47 than I did at 27, I would have laffed and laffed and laffed. But I felt totally *un* desirable at 27, so perhaps I had no where to go but up! ha! I do get it. I don’t identify at all, though. That’s one of the nice things about never having been hot. I don’t feel a sense of loss. The funny thing is, it’s quite the opposite. Intellectually, I know that men are not, in general, stalking the 47 year old flabby Jewish girl, yet the kind of men *I* like seem more in abundance, and there are more that like me. The people once out of my league are now in it, somehow…perhaps because the leagues have changed, and the kind of men they were at 20 are not the kind they are ate 45-65 (my demo! and, ahem, older, as John shows) I also feel like I’m just, I dunno, better company? more fun? than I was at 25, and there are enough people who recognize that to be gratifying. True, invisibility is around the corner, but if someone told me I’d feel more desirable at 47 than I did at 27, I would have laffed and laffed and laffed. But I felt totally *un* desirable at 27, so perhaps I had no where to go but up!

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