Comments on: It’s only natural http://www.formerlyhot.com/2009/04/its-only-natural/ The tween site for adults Wed, 08 Feb 2012 16:48:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Joel Jacobs http://www.formerlyhot.com/2009/04/its-only-natural/comment-page-1/#comment-826 Joel Jacobs Sun, 12 Apr 2009 03:10:57 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/index.php/2009/04/05/its-only-natural/#comment-826 We don't really dress up for anything, especially going to bed. (We took a family trip to Monterey a few days ago, and a colleague was listing possible restaurants we could eat dinner at, she said of one "You might not feel comfortable there, since you're wearing a sweatshirt and jeans." I explained that "not feeling comfortable" in casual clothes was not a feeling I was familiar with; the real question was whether they would kick me out or not.) Neither of us has anything sexy to wear. My idea of Denise wearing sexy attire to bed is anything other than the clothes she wore during the day. My own sexiest bed garb is tye-died tighty whiteys. I also wonder what the point is of lingere when you've been married a long time. Isn't the purpose of lingere to hint suggestively at what's underneath, or cast it in the best possible light? If you're extremely familiar with what's underneath, I'm not sure lace really adds much. I salute you for talking to the girls about sex. It seems like the right thing to do, but it still feels awkward. I think I've been pretty good about giving straight answers when asked, but I haven't initiated a lot of sex ed in my house. I'm hoping that's enough. We don’t really dress up for anything, especially going to bed. (We took a family trip to Monterey a few days ago, and a colleague was listing possible restaurants we could eat dinner at, she said of one “You might not feel comfortable there, since you’re wearing a sweatshirt and jeans.” I explained that “not feeling comfortable” in casual clothes was not a feeling I was familiar with; the real question was whether they would kick me out or not.) Neither of us has anything sexy to wear. My idea of Denise wearing sexy attire to bed is anything other than the clothes she wore during the day. My own sexiest bed garb is tye-died tighty whiteys.

I also wonder what the point is of lingere when you’ve been married a long time. Isn’t the purpose of lingere to hint suggestively at what’s underneath, or cast it in the best possible light? If you’re extremely familiar with what’s underneath, I’m not sure lace really adds much.

I salute you for talking to the girls about sex. It seems like the right thing to do, but it still feels awkward. I think I’ve been pretty good about giving straight answers when asked, but I haven’t initiated a lot of sex ed in my house. I’m hoping that’s enough.

]]> By: Marlene http://www.formerlyhot.com/2009/04/its-only-natural/comment-page-1/#comment-812 Marlene Wed, 08 Apr 2009 13:40:28 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/index.php/2009/04/05/its-only-natural/#comment-812 This made me laugh out loud! I don't agree at all that it's giving up - I think it's just realistic and authentic to wear what YOU'RE comfortable in to bed, and not be pretending that the thong and bra set you're putting on is comfortable OR is for you, which it isn't. If it were up to the us, the women, we'd wear t-shirts, which is what I wear to bed and my husband doesn't give a rat's ass - he just wants what's underneath that. Great post - you took the words right out of my mouth. This made me laugh out loud! I don’t agree at all that it’s giving up - I think it’s just realistic and authentic to wear what YOU’RE comfortable in to bed, and not be pretending that the thong and bra set you’re putting on is comfortable OR is for you, which it isn’t. If it were up to the us, the women, we’d wear t-shirts, which is what I wear to bed and my husband doesn’t give a rat’s ass - he just wants what’s underneath that.

Great post - you took the words right out of my mouth.

]]> By: Pete http://www.formerlyhot.com/2009/04/its-only-natural/comment-page-1/#comment-811 Pete Wed, 08 Apr 2009 13:23:41 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/index.php/2009/04/05/its-only-natural/#comment-811 I usually go with the crotchless panties myself, but, because my kids can - and do - come into the bedroom at anytime of night, I also keep a full suit of armor by the nightstand, ready to throw on at a moment's notice. Meanwhile, hopefully you can talk to my kids about the birds and the bees so my wife and I don't have to. You're plan seems a whole lot better than ours, which was to send them both to a nunnery at age 7, which might be tough because neither is Catholic and one of them is a boy. I usually go with the crotchless panties myself, but, because my kids can - and do - come into the bedroom at anytime of night, I also keep a full suit of armor by the nightstand, ready to throw on at a moment’s notice. Meanwhile, hopefully you can talk to my kids about the birds and the bees so my wife and I don’t have to. You’re plan seems a whole lot better than ours, which was to send them both to a nunnery at age 7, which might be tough because neither is Catholic and one of them is a boy.

]]> By: Josh http://www.formerlyhot.com/2009/04/its-only-natural/comment-page-1/#comment-805 Josh Tue, 07 Apr 2009 02:16:36 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/index.php/2009/04/05/its-only-natural/#comment-805 1) But what DO you wear to bed, Julie? 2) I used to wear nothing, but now that MY Sasha is 4, I'm feeling like I really ought to wear something, because he sees me get OUT of bed half the time, and while nakedness is natural and good, I'm not sure it should be daily and ubiquitous. 3) My instincts and yours, Steph, are identical. At least re: how to talk to our respective Sashas. 1) But what DO you wear to bed, Julie?
2) I used to wear nothing, but now that MY Sasha is 4, I’m feeling like I really ought to wear something, because he sees me get OUT of bed half the time, and while nakedness is natural and good, I’m not sure it should be daily and ubiquitous.
3) My instincts and yours, Steph, are identical. At least re: how to talk to our respective Sashas.

]]> By: Hugh Siegel http://www.formerlyhot.com/2009/04/its-only-natural/comment-page-1/#comment-804 Hugh Siegel Tue, 07 Apr 2009 02:07:57 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/index.php/2009/04/05/its-only-natural/#comment-804 Personally, I think a tank top and underwear, or even sweat pants and a t-shirt can be as sexy, if not sexier, than some frilly Frederick's of Hollywood thing. It all depends on how it's worn and what's going on in the mind of the wearer. Maybe that's your point, but I'm not sure that's what I take away from this. Hey, I don't have kids, or even a steady partner at this moment, so what the hell do I know? But I find this post more than a bit sad. Not that your brilliant and observant daughters want to know about the birds and the elephants, of course. That's fantastic. But the sense of giving up that comes through here is a bit discouraging. Personally, I think a tank top and underwear, or even sweat pants and a t-shirt can be as sexy, if not sexier, than some frilly Frederick’s of Hollywood thing. It all depends on how it’s worn and what’s going on in the mind of the wearer. Maybe that’s your point, but I’m not sure that’s what I take away from this. Hey, I don’t have kids, or even a steady partner at this moment, so what the hell do I know? But I find this post more than a bit sad. Not that your brilliant and observant daughters want to know about the birds and the elephants, of course. That’s fantastic. But the sense of giving up that comes through here is a bit discouraging.

]]> By: Julie http://www.formerlyhot.com/2009/04/its-only-natural/comment-page-1/#comment-796 Julie Mon, 06 Apr 2009 03:21:32 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/index.php/2009/04/05/its-only-natural/#comment-796 : D Haha, Wonderful! The early part of this blog reminds me of when I took my Art Institute of Los Angeles students to the Museum of Sex in Los Angeles. It was Arts in Society class, and we were exploring gender and expression, gender in the media, and the ever-important topic of Overcoming Homophiobia. One thing led to another, and I ended up convincing a bunch of Fomerly Homophobic teens and twenty-somethings to stick their hands in the plastic bins full of silicone body parts and feel away. They were giggling like five year olds. But were able to have much more mature discussions about gender, art, and society after that. Those museums are useful. All that elephant imagery was very vivid and funny... Viv and Sasha are so wise, as is their mommy. And I'm completely with you about talking opnely and transparently about sex, and all its issues, with the kids. : D

Haha, Wonderful!

The early part of this blog reminds me of when I took my Art Institute of Los Angeles students to the Museum of Sex in Los Angeles. It was Arts in Society class, and we were exploring gender and expression, gender in the media, and the ever-important topic of Overcoming Homophiobia.

One thing led to another, and I ended up convincing a bunch of Fomerly Homophobic teens and twenty-somethings to stick their hands in the plastic bins full of silicone body parts and feel away. They were giggling like five year olds. But were able to have much more mature discussions about gender, art, and society after that. Those museums are useful.

All that elephant imagery was very vivid and funny… Viv and Sasha are so wise, as is their mommy. And I’m completely with you about talking opnely and transparently about sex, and all its issues, with the kids.

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