http://www.formerlyhot.com/2009/08/plus-ca-change/ The tween site for adults Tue, 22 May 2012 14:06:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 http://www.formerlyhot.com/2009/08/plus-ca-change/comment-page-1/#comment-1310 Robin Thu, 06 Aug 2009 21:20:01 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/?p=741#comment-1310 Yes! So glad I'm past the age of the major drama. Turns my stomach now to see it...and to think of the time wasted on it. Yes!
So glad I’m past the age of the major drama. Turns my stomach now to see it…and to think of the time wasted on it.

]]> http://www.formerlyhot.com/2009/08/plus-ca-change/comment-page-1/#comment-1308 hugh Thu, 06 Aug 2009 17:58:14 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/?p=741#comment-1308 As a guy who has probably been more guilty of mythification than he would like to admit at various times in his life, I just feel inclined to say that -- while there's no doubt that this kind of unhealthy power game is often a part of misguided youthful mating rituals; and that usually in heterosexual relationships we see the man (or boy) perpetrating some kind of violence (virtual, if not actual) upon the woman (or girl) -- the situation you were privy to in the shoe store might have had another or various other sides to it. I'm especially suspicious of the clerk's characterization of the "upper east side loser who still lives with his parents and doesn’t have to work to pay his rent." Maybe that's fair. Maybe it's just spurious. Maybe the young object of desire has been sending conflicting signals to this suitor (the "trigger" you allude to). Who knows . . .maybe she took advantage of his apparent wealth by giving him ideas and then capriciously dismissed him. Perhaps she hasn't even told her friend the whole truth. I'm not defending him categorically. He could very well be a "psycho." There does seem to be a surplus of them in this city. But then again, she might be a psycho herself, with her own fantasies, fears and neurotransmitter issues. Or, at least, she might more than just an innocent victim. And, well, given that thought process . . .I guess I'm just wondering if there really is a clear, generalized life lesson to be learned here after all. As a guy who has probably been more guilty of mythification than he would like to admit at various times in his life, I just feel inclined to say that — while there’s no doubt that this kind of unhealthy power game is often a part of misguided youthful mating rituals; and that usually in heterosexual relationships we see the man (or boy) perpetrating some kind of violence (virtual, if not actual) upon the woman (or girl) — the situation you were privy to in the shoe store might have had another or various other sides to it. I’m especially suspicious of the clerk’s characterization of the “upper east side loser who still lives with his parents and doesn’t have to work to pay his rent.” Maybe that’s fair. Maybe it’s just spurious. Maybe the young object of desire has been sending conflicting signals to this suitor (the “trigger” you allude to). Who knows . . .maybe she took advantage of his apparent wealth by giving him ideas and then capriciously dismissed him. Perhaps she hasn’t even told her friend the whole truth. I’m not defending him categorically. He could very well be a “psycho.” There does seem to be a surplus of them in this city. But then again, she might be a psycho herself, with her own fantasies, fears and neurotransmitter issues. Or, at least, she might more than just an innocent victim. And, well, given that thought process . . .I guess I’m just wondering if there really is a clear, generalized life lesson to be learned here after all.

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