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		<title>By: Julie Metz</title>
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		<dc:creator>Julie Metz</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Oct 2009 16:07:23 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Many sympathies...I learned to drive at 27, a lifelong New Yorker with no car aptitude. My first driving teacher was here in NYC--a cool Southern guy who kept saying: You gotta turn that wheel sugar! one time I got out of the car and started crying. Later I ended up in a hypnotherapist's office trying to work through my driving anxiety--i think I'd been in one too many cab accident to ever feel fully at ease. Then I moved to the burbs and had to drive. I went back for lessons and had a cool Vietnam vet--he started over from scratch.i got pretty good at it. Then I moved back to NYC and things went south. I am thinking it would be good to find my Southern guy again or anyone who could start me off from the beginning. But you can do it.  I know you can.
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Many sympathies&#8230;I learned to drive at 27, a lifelong New Yorker with no car aptitude. My first driving teacher was here in NYC&#8211;a cool Southern guy who kept saying: You gotta turn that wheel sugar! one time I got out of the car and started crying. Later I ended up in a hypnotherapist&#8217;s office trying to work through my driving anxiety&#8211;i think I&#8217;d been in one too many cab accident to ever feel fully at ease. Then I moved to the burbs and had to drive. I went back for lessons and had a cool Vietnam vet&#8211;he started over from scratch.i got pretty good at it. Then I moved back to NYC and things went south. I am thinking it would be good to find my Southern guy again or anyone who could start me off from the beginning. But you can do it.  I know you can.<br />
julie</p>
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		<title>By: Amy</title>
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		<dc:creator>Amy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Oct 2009 14:37:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>You're doing fine. My Gramma learned to drive at this age, and did fine, driving into her 90s. In all her years of driving there was only one incident, with a peach truck, that my aunt was sworn to secrecy about, so Grampa wouldn't find out. 'Course, everyone in the family knew, cept for possibly Grampa. He was the quiet sort, so who knows?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You&#8217;re doing fine. My Gramma learned to drive at this age, and did fine, driving into her 90s. In all her years of driving there was only one incident, with a peach truck, that my aunt was sworn to secrecy about, so Grampa wouldn&#8217;t find out. &#8216;Course, everyone in the family knew, cept for possibly Grampa. He was the quiet sort, so who knows?</p>
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		<title>By: Joel Jacobs</title>
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		<dc:creator>Joel Jacobs</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Oct 2009 13:35:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Isn't there a bunch of science about how older folks like us are creatures of habit, and get set in our ways?  How but some education with our entertainment?

I don't know about the seitan part--I can't get enough of the stuff, myself--but for me, it certainly applies to skiing, which I took up late in life.  Though it's also true that for most of my adult life, I've had a fear of going downhill fast (I can actually bike uphill way faster than downhill), but as a kid I used to fly down hills on my bike with no helmet and no fear.  Now I just imagine hitting a pothole and flying off the bike the whole time.  

It's really too bad we don't have more fear over our instincts.  Clearly, sometimes they serve us well.  I didn't read "Blink," but I accept that sometimes the gut thinks faster than the head, and hell, why not benefit from the lessons your genes learned but you haven't experienced personally.  OTOH, would it kill us to be able to override the paralysis when we've done a careful cost-benefit analysis and decided that yes, a few minutes of very careful driving provides benefits that outweigh the discernable but tolerable risks?

Also, did you read the book Empire Falls by Richard Russo?  There's a very funny description of the protagonist's difficult relationship with his driving instructor in high school.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Isn&#8217;t there a bunch of science about how older folks like us are creatures of habit, and get set in our ways?  How but some education with our entertainment?</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t know about the seitan part&#8211;I can&#8217;t get enough of the stuff, myself&#8211;but for me, it certainly applies to skiing, which I took up late in life.  Though it&#8217;s also true that for most of my adult life, I&#8217;ve had a fear of going downhill fast (I can actually bike uphill way faster than downhill), but as a kid I used to fly down hills on my bike with no helmet and no fear.  Now I just imagine hitting a pothole and flying off the bike the whole time.  </p>
<p>It&#8217;s really too bad we don&#8217;t have more fear over our instincts.  Clearly, sometimes they serve us well.  I didn&#8217;t read &#8220;Blink,&#8221; but I accept that sometimes the gut thinks faster than the head, and hell, why not benefit from the lessons your genes learned but you haven&#8217;t experienced personally.  OTOH, would it kill us to be able to override the paralysis when we&#8217;ve done a careful cost-benefit analysis and decided that yes, a few minutes of very careful driving provides benefits that outweigh the discernable but tolerable risks?</p>
<p>Also, did you read the book Empire Falls by Richard Russo?  There&#8217;s a very funny description of the protagonist&#8217;s difficult relationship with his driving instructor in high school.</p>
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		<title>By: Demetra</title>
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		<dc:creator>Demetra</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Oct 2009 05:37:42 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>You'll be just fine Steph.  My mom has an aunt who *learned* how to drive, stick-shift no-less, at 55 after her husband had a stroke.  Now stick is hard... believe me!!!  She's 72 now, still going strong and a great driver at that!

Your driver-instincts are there, just buried deep down.  Like everything else, what makes you a good driver is practice, practice, practice.  You can do it girl!!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You&#8217;ll be just fine Steph.  My mom has an aunt who *learned* how to drive, stick-shift no-less, at 55 after her husband had a stroke.  Now stick is hard&#8230; believe me!!!  She&#8217;s 72 now, still going strong and a great driver at that!</p>
<p>Your driver-instincts are there, just buried deep down.  Like everything else, what makes you a good driver is practice, practice, practice.  You can do it girl!!</p>
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