Comments on: Room to grow http://www.formerlyhot.com/2010/03/room-to-grow/ The tween site for adults Tue, 22 May 2012 22:34:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Vegas Linda Lou http://www.formerlyhot.com/2010/03/room-to-grow/comment-page-1/#comment-2201 Vegas Linda Lou Thu, 11 Mar 2010 23:21:10 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/?p=1221#comment-2201 I think it’s important to balance the two. I believe that every experience is an essential stepping stone to the next and while it’s sometimes hard to “love what is,” it’s a lot easier when you realize you’re always exactly where you should be. When you trust that everything unfolds in divine order, you have more energy to focus on changing the circumstances within your control. Six years ago I was depressed and miserable after my second divorce. If someone had told me, “Don’t worry, Linda, in a few years you’ll write a book and have a one-woman show in Las Vegas” well… I probably wouldn’t have believed it. But I also wouldn’t have worried nearly as much. I think it’s important to balance the two. I believe that every experience is an essential stepping stone to the next and while it’s sometimes hard to “love what is,” it’s a lot easier when you realize you’re always exactly where you should be. When you trust that everything unfolds in divine order, you have more energy to focus on changing the circumstances within your control.

Six years ago I was depressed and miserable after my second divorce. If someone had told me, “Don’t worry, Linda, in a few years you’ll write a book and have a one-woman show in Las Vegas” well… I probably wouldn’t have believed it. But I also wouldn’t have worried nearly as much.

]]> By: Barbara http://www.formerlyhot.com/2010/03/room-to-grow/comment-page-1/#comment-2199 Barbara Thu, 11 Mar 2010 21:58:28 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/?p=1221#comment-2199 It's easier to change your feelings about your circumstances but, realistically, it's more important to change the circumstances themselves. I've tried changing my feelings about the things that bother me, and it lasts for a little while, but then the same things come back to cause me stress. Much better for your soul to just do the hard work and change the circumstances, if you can. I finally had weight loss surgery a couple of months ago after being overweight my whole life. WLS is not a quick fix, as everyone seems to believe; this is the hardest thing I've ever done. But I feel so much better because I took big steps to improve this situation. I never knew how liberating it would be. It’s easier to change your feelings about your circumstances but, realistically, it’s more important to change the circumstances themselves. I’ve tried changing my feelings about the things that bother me, and it lasts for a little while, but then the same things come back to cause me stress. Much better for your soul to just do the hard work and change the circumstances, if you can.

I finally had weight loss surgery a couple of months ago after being overweight my whole life. WLS is not a quick fix, as everyone seems to believe; this is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. But I feel so much better because I took big steps to improve this situation. I never knew how liberating it would be.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.formerlyhot.com/2010/03/room-to-grow/comment-page-1/#comment-2198 Lisa Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:23:21 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/?p=1221#comment-2198 Thank you for "31 Reason Not to Feel Mom Guilt"! I needed a good laugh today. Also I could relate to every single one of those reasons. Glad I'm not alone! Thank you for “31 Reason Not to Feel Mom Guilt”! I needed a good laugh today. Also I could relate to every single one of those reasons. Glad I’m not alone!

]]> By: Dorinda http://www.formerlyhot.com/2010/03/room-to-grow/comment-page-1/#comment-2196 Dorinda Thu, 11 Mar 2010 15:56:37 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/?p=1221#comment-2196 I'm here to tell you how laugh-out-loud funny that article "31 Reasons Not To Feel Mom Guilt" was! I'm sending it to all my friends, male and female. You're a great writer! I’m here to tell you how laugh-out-loud funny that article “31 Reasons Not To Feel Mom Guilt” was! I’m sending it to all my friends, male and female. You’re a great writer!

]]> By: Karen Duggan http://www.formerlyhot.com/2010/03/room-to-grow/comment-page-1/#comment-2193 Karen Duggan Wed, 10 Mar 2010 23:10:49 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/?p=1221#comment-2193 So much easier to change the the 'feeling' about my life -- good, bad and indifferent -- than to change the actual circumstances. In my experience, the change in the physical realm follows the change in the psychic realm anyway. One of my old favorites (from Marianne Williamson lectures) is that if someone calls you a Polyanna, thank them. It is a compliment of the highest order if other people notice that we are always seeing the good in a situation. Book sounds great. It will go onto my list. So much easier to change the the ‘feeling’ about my life — good, bad and indifferent — than to change the actual circumstances. In my experience, the change in the physical realm follows the change in the psychic realm anyway.

One of my old favorites (from Marianne Williamson lectures) is that if someone calls you a Polyanna, thank them. It is a compliment of the highest order if other people notice that we are always seeing the good in a situation.

Book sounds great. It will go onto my list.

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