NATALIE WROTE: I think the hardest part about losing my “hotness” has been the perimenopausal weight gain. A lot of this has to do with my “pageant mentality”. I will never again be 110 pounds parading around on a stage in high heels dyed to match my one piece swimsuit. I was able to keep my weight at 122ish until I hit age 38. Today (at almost 48) I weigh 140. I am fit. I run and take advanced group exercise classes at the YMCA. Weight just stays on me and it will not budge. In my 20’s I considered older women with extra pounds on them to be lazy. Now I am one of them. What a cruel joke!