Comments on: Revisiting a Formerly Moment

By: jane

jane — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 00:29:49 +0000

“This morning, this guy got up and offered me his seat on the subway.”

Then,

“That never happens. Truly, never.”

Formerly, indeed.

LOL

By: mongo

mongo — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 23:46:15 +0000

Funny, way back when I traveled a lot, I don’t know how many times I got into a subway with a bloody great backpack on and hauling a carry bag pulling my arms out of their sockets, and not once did any of those pretty young things get up and offer to help. Not once did any older woman do anything other than look on or away. It was always other men who helped, if there were any about.

Sometimes I would ask a ‘lady’ to shift a bit along a bench seat to free up enough space, and she’d do it then. But I always had to ask. Why couldn’t she just guess what I was thinking? Whatever happened to that thing where woman help men out? You know, the same as chivalry, only in reverse? I just can’t quite think of the word…Oh, just remembered. There’s no such thing! No need for such a word!

Imagine being a man for just one day.

The experience would be a little like what you felt when you realized you were now formerly hot - only a little more intense. Sort of like an atom bomb is more intense than a fire-cracker. A very small fire-cracker.

By: Kelly Ozley

Kelly Ozley — Sun, 22 Aug 2010 01:19:49 +0000

Love this site. I just encountered it. I am Southern and used to men who treat women like ladies. It is oh so rare these days. Glad to see chivalry is not dead.
Kelly Ozley
kellyozley.wordpress.com

By: Aparna

Aparna — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 21:09:40 +0000

So iPad tries to throw words in my mouth prigs is pregnant people!

By: Aparna

Aparna — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 21:08:59 +0000

That’s prigs not prigs

By: Aparna

Aparna — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 21:08:13 +0000

I am such a fan since they dissed you on nytimes, which I read regularly. I got the sarcasm and then went on to see myself in you. I’m 33 and on my way out- its in my head most probably but whaddo you do abt it…anyway I was prigs an year back and wkd be shocked how almost no one got up to offer me a seat on the train! I thought it was because I’m brown… Anyways I found it offensive and applied some of the same tactics you mention! Now to my list of things I think ppl hold against me I can or shld add formerly hotness too…. But then I know a lot of times it wasn’t my color just as I shld know that my f.h. Status doesn’t really dictate a lotta callousness the world throws at me… Or even kindness. Like they say( usually men do) for pete’s sake stop thinking so much! Seriously do!

By: TED GRIDER

TED GRIDER — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 10:59:45 +0000

Ha! I love it. No, I don’t think you killed chivalry. I am from the south (not deep south, but the midwest kind of south) and we southerners will do what is right despite the scorn! You actually helped bring back the beauty of chivalry by talking the seat. Each time you accept such a gesture, you reinforce in the giver his (or her) sense of pride.