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By: smartee

smartee — Wed, 01 Sep 2010 22:48:52 +0000

Haaa…I was just discussing this with my daughter who walks in NYC for school..and the other day while hot, tired and just plain sweaty..it happened on about 5 corners and she came home mimicking them…we were both hysterical laqughing…mainly because she nailed it..but also because it was just funny how even when you dont look your bestt,.. or not be feeling it…it can happen..time after time….

By: StephanieDolgoff

StephanieDolgoff — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 01:00:28 +0000

Thank you for commenting and for your kind words all around.

By: Mak

Mak — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 00:43:03 +0000

Thank you for that.

By: StephanieDolgoff

StephanieDolgoff — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 00:30:31 +0000

Hi, Mak,
Once again, forgive my ignorance. The few times this happened (always complimentary, btw, never critical) it was by men dressed as women, at least two of whom I believed were in transition. Pre-op, post-op, I couldn’t tell you. I’m not sure “drag queen” would be accurate for all of them…Let me try something else. And thanks. Steph

By: Mak

Mak — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 00:14:42 +0000

I love your writing, and I totally relate to what you’re trying to say…and I don’t want to get snippy about this (because I know you’re trying and that’s admirable)…but…I wonder just how many times you actually were called out on your fashion disasters by a transsexual woman? Really? Speaking as a trans woman, most transsexual women I know would never do that to another woman. They are the last people to call attention to themselves. Now…DRAG QUEENS would do that, but then again, they are gay men. Perhaps that might be a better way to describe those who castigated you for your fashion choices?

By: StephanieDolgoff

StephanieDolgoff — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 21:46:33 +0000

No! Sorry, I did not know. I will fix it. Thanks.

By: Mak

Mak — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 18:51:03 +0000

You do know, of course, that “trannies” is considered a perjorative term to trans people, right?

By: JSweet

JSweet — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 17:45:40 +0000

Wow, I really relate to a lot of what you said. I used to live in NYC as well and I admit I’ve run the gamut of reactions to the male street attention from flattery to sadness to fear. I would avoid certain neighborhoods or streets that although “safe” were just to full of harassment to tolerate. I don’t live in the city anymore, so I can’t compare then to now, but the feeling of wistfulness is there…am I invisible now? Is it because I am pushing the baby stroller/wearing a wedding ring/just plain older? I want to age gracefully and be happy that yes, I had my time in the sun, and now it’s another girl’s turn. Now I’m a mom and not that young. Don’t get me wrong, I still want to be attractive but I feel like when women can’t accept that passing of the torch so to speak, bad things happen, like Jocelyn Wildenstein levels of plastic surgery, or irresponsible behavior for the sake of the self-esteem high.