Jennifer Anastasi, BounceBack Editorial Staff
There’s been lots of buzz about a new release on the ever-popular chick-lit scene. Stephanie Dolgoff’s “My Formerly Hot Life: Dispatches from Just the Other Side of Young” takes a humorous look at how she identifies herself as a “formerly” – the term she uses to define her gradual transformation from a hot, young 20-something to a not-so-hot middle aged wife and mom (who shamelessly admits she’d “buy an ass-bra” these days!)
She recalls the subtle signs suggesting she had entered that strange limbo between old and young. Salespeople in swanky shops were no longer flocking to assist her. All of the cool hangouts she used to know no longer existed. Once the kind of girl who never spent time at home, she now caught herself speaking highly of her Swiffer. It finally hit her like lightning one day on the subway when a sexy stranger asked her for the time. She braced herself for the pick-up line that usually followed, but this time it didn’t come. Sexy stranger wanted only the time, and went back to reading his book. In that moment she realized she just wasn’t “that” girl anymore — the one who always got hit on by sexy men on the subway, the young, hot girl “in the know” about all things trendy. She’d have to come to terms with this confusing in-between phase of life.
With each hilarious observation it occurred to me…we’re all “formerly” in some way.
READ THE WHOLE THING HERE
September 9, 2010 at 10:14 am
As a Pausal Princess this is my response to “formerlie” http://gonepausal.blogspot.com/2010/08/hot-not-formerly-hot-for-me.html
September 9, 2010 at 10:46 am
I’m sorry you’re having a hard time of things. Life is a series of transitions and perhaps I’ll relate to where you’re at when I get there. But I don’t think it’s helpful to belittle the experience of women who are a couple of years behind you and have equally valid concerns considering where they’re at.
September 9, 2010 at 11:16 am
I’d like to know where Stephanie has ever once said she’s given up on being attractive or pretty. I don’t understand where that comes from. No one ever said us formerlies have given up. We may not be dressing up and going out clubbing on a Friday night, but that doesn’t mean we go out with unbrushed hair, no make-up and our pj’s….. (although sometimes I’d like to). We’re not lamenting, we’re making observations in the changes in our lives. Yes, sometimes it’s with some sadness and other times its with great hilarity. It’s something different to get used to, and accept, that’s all. But no one said anything about giving up. Get a sense of humor people and learn to laugh at yourself, your life will be much happier.