Comments on: Shape shifters http://www.formerlyhot.com/2012/04/shape-shifters/ The tween site for adults Sun, 19 May 2013 21:05:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: LPT http://www.formerlyhot.com/2012/04/shape-shifters/comment-page-1/#comment-24991 LPT Tue, 17 Apr 2012 19:30:39 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/?p=3210#comment-24991 I love how you phrased this: "actual looks don’t matter nearly as much as how you feel about how you look." I need to post this on my bathroom mirror or something to remind me of it. I'm not happy with my current weight, but even when I was at a weight I'd love to see again, I probably thought I'd be better if I lost a few. While I do want to get back to exercising, I need to keep in mind that it's more for how it makes me feel than how I will look. Sure that dress I pulled out from the back of the closet thinking I'd wear it Easter morning didn't fit, but by golly, it was more than 10 years old! After that much time, I deserve a new Easter dress that actually fits! And in that dress, I need to regain what a dear male friend told me back in college - it was never my looks that made me sexy, it was my confidence in myself. That's what I need to work on getting back more than my 20-year-old body. Thank you for the reminder! I love how you phrased this: “actual looks don’t matter nearly as much as how you feel about how you look.” I need to post this on my bathroom mirror or something to remind me of it.

I’m not happy with my current weight, but even when I was at a weight I’d love to see again, I probably thought I’d be better if I lost a few. While I do want to get back to exercising, I need to keep in mind that it’s more for how it makes me feel than how I will look. Sure that dress I pulled out from the back of the closet thinking I’d wear it Easter morning didn’t fit, but by golly, it was more than 10 years old! After that much time, I deserve a new Easter dress that actually fits!

And in that dress, I need to regain what a dear male friend told me back in college - it was never my looks that made me sexy, it was my confidence in myself. That’s what I need to work on getting back more than my 20-year-old body. Thank you for the reminder!

]]> By: J http://www.formerlyhot.com/2012/04/shape-shifters/comment-page-1/#comment-24757 J Sat, 14 Apr 2012 18:40:00 +0000 http://www.formerlyhot.com/?p=3210#comment-24757 I really think it's true, the secret to being beautiful is thinking you're beautiful (without being vain- the key is never holding looks as your MOST IMPORTANT attribute) The more you obsess over what you find ugly, the more people will see THAT when they look at you, whatever you draw attention to shows the most...(Perhaps the only good thing from the "tell them everything about them is amazing no matter what" mentality we were raised with haha)...I "faked it til I made it" hung on for dear life and managed to be genuinely happy in my own skin for large part of my existence =) I really think it’s true, the secret to being beautiful is thinking you’re beautiful (without being vain- the key is never holding looks as your MOST IMPORTANT attribute) The more you obsess over what you find ugly, the more people will see THAT when they look at you, whatever you draw attention to shows the most…(Perhaps the only good thing from the “tell them everything about them is amazing no matter what” mentality we were raised with haha)…I “faked it til I made it” hung on for dear life and managed to be genuinely happy in my own skin for large part of my existence =)

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