OK, cough it up!I want to know what your FORMERLY is, not least of all because perhaps it'll be as superficial and relatively unimportant in the scheme of things as is mine.
Obviously, the fact that you've always been the smartest kid in your family and yet couldn't bring yourself to finish your dissertation is nothing compared to the problems of veterans returning minus a limb, but it's still worth a few words. Or that your high school peers voted you most likely to get rich quick and you're working at Dunkin' Donuts. Or that you had the marriage and little blond children that seemed so perfect, and now you have an ex and bigger blond children that you see every other weekend.
Boo-effin'-hoo, some will say. You're not homeless. You're not trapped in some abandoned bomb shelter with nothing but a skeleton and some plant water to drink like that girl on All My Children. Get some real problems. And you will, at some point. But for now, I want to hear about your FORMERLY.
Go to the drop-down menu, and select a FORMERLY from among the ones I posted. If none apply, write your own in the box to the right. And then give me a few words (no more than 200) on your FORMERLY, what it meant to you and how you're dealing. You can also post a relevant picture (it needn't be you but something that says it all). Keep it relatively clean, kids, and feel free to post more than one. You can be serious, self-mocking, however you feel.
JULI WROTE: I’m 45 and at that point with my hair…should I continue coloring/highlighting or should I let it ‘go’? I’ve had more advice from women my age to color, saying “We’re too young to go gray.” Um, no we are not. We are coloring BECAUSE we are gray. So, is gray “bold and sophisticated” or “old and ugly”…
Photo by justjOOOOlie CC
CHRIS WROTE: Ok, so my 40th class reunion is two months away. Go ahead, you can guess my age! I work out, my body is in good shape so I don’t have to do the “class renunion frantic diet dance”. I got an email and picture from a former classmate and almost went into cardiac arrest! This person looked “old”. The white hair, wrinkles, the whole enchilada as they say!! No No, this can’t be. This person was NOT in my class! I don’t believe it. I’ve looked at this persons picture every day for a week, and I still refuse believe it.
JULIE WROTE: The other day my three-year-old son asked, “Mommy, are you young?” I thought for a moment and it hit me, “No, I’m not.” He asked, “Are you old?” I quickly replied, “NO.” Then he looked confused and after some time asked “What are you?” It was the first time I said it and felt it, “Well, Lukey I am middle aged.” YIKES! I am middle aged! When did that happen? I thought my parents were middle aged, but now that I think about it I have replaced them. They are old and I am middle aged and 42 yrs old. No way around that fact.
I am not sure what this means or when this happened but I don’t like it. I recently joined Facebook and I saw old pictures of me in high school where I was young and beautiful, but I had no idea. I thought I was ugly and disfigured and had no clue that I was young. Youth is definitely wasted on the young.
It is relative however. My 87 yr old mother in law reminds me that compared to her I am young and beautiful so “shut up and enjoy it!!!”
Photo by Freeparking CC
AMY WROTE: I went out dancing on an 80s night, and it was very fun and love the music. Felt very old and formerly waiting in the 20 minute line to get in with all the 21 year olds who were dressed up in 80s clothes. They were BORN the year I graduated from high school. There is no way I am wearing 80s clothes again- I did that. I lived it and loved it, and to them it is just this retro trendy kitsch thing. Good lord, I could be their MOM.
LEANNE WROTE: In my 40’s I made some life changes, like returning to work (make that paid employment),and then grad school to become a teacher. Trouble was, I stopped paying attention to the fact that I gained about 30+ pounds when I went through menopause at 46. With 20-something year olds who didn’t require many mommy services, I hit the gym and a good diet. Dropped 38 on a good day and am maintaining.   So take heart.
HEIDI WROTE: I commented to my husband that I was going to be 41 this summer which was just fine by me. He reminded me that the year is 2009 and that I will actually be 42. Now, THAT seemed rather old!
LAURA WROTE: I turned 32 this week, and am no longer officially young (thanks to Asher Roth’s MILF age qualifier of being at least 32 - I don’t even have KIDS, and I’m officially a frigging MILF?). When did I cross the line from Miss to Ma’am?
MS. BENTLEY WROTE: I knew I was a Formerly when I walked into my father-in-law’s house (for a family dinner) sporting my new short and (I thought) hip hair style. The first thing that flew out my (younger) brother in law’s mouth was, “wow, you got a new hair-do! It’s so *mom-ish*.” Yikes! All I could hear were the words echoing in my head…*mom-ish*…*mom-ish*…*MOM-ISH*!!! Not the look I was going for. Sadly, I knew that if I had been 21 with the same short style it would no doubt have been dubbed “sassy” or “hip”. Ah, well. That’s life kiddos.
CARRIE WROTE: Every year at the high school where I teach, many students’ interpretation of 80’s-wear on “Time Warp Day” makes me feel like I’ve been transported backstage at the filming of “Flashdance.” Did we ever really dress like that?
Photo: By Steven Damron copyright
 
ALMA WROTE: I had to write in because something has been nagging at me for a while now; I think it is ageist to make anyone older than 30 have to scroll down really far to find the year they were born when registering for something on line or purchasing an item. It is pure discrimination to make us work that hard and it makes me feel old. Am I old?
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