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Comment on The perceived safety of age by Jeannie

Jeannie — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 21:35:21 +0000

Ohhhh yeah the subway pervs. I’m certain that they do target young women who look like they won’t make a peep. I don’t think you can call someone who surreptitiously masturbates into a girl’s handbag or on the back of her leg on a crowded train “brave.”

Comment on Breathe, Demi, breathe by Dave

Dave — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 13:36:28 +0000

I faced a similar problem after graduating high school. I was a somebody there and afterwards I went to being a nobody. I even regretted turning 20 since, after all, I’m not a teenager anymore. Of course all that resolved itself over the years as other good things came into my life [wife, kids etc]. But I always worried about it resurfacing later in life. Well, I recently turned 50 [I can't beleive it either... ;)] and I’m living life like a teenager again! I’m quite enjoying life nowadays….so long as I can get to bed by 10pm! But this is something we all face, and I wish Demi the best in overcoming her anxieties since as you say, I too am on the other side of young and it’s fantastic!

Comment on Book freebie! by Rebecca

Rebecca — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 19:25:20 +0000

You are so kind - generous - hot. Love you. xoxo

Comment on New Year’s evolution by Wendy Nelson

Wendy Nelson — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 16:56:50 +0000

oh, I feel like you could have written this about me…(eating disorder included) .. very insightful and I think a lot of women would relate. Accepting what you have and what you’re good at right now, and being happy with that is not an easy thing to do when you’ve spent your life trying to be everything.

Comment on Out of the primordial ooze by Joel Jacobs

Joel Jacobs — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 16:27:23 +0000

Denise and I have had them for a year. Aviva used to make fun of them until she joined crew, and one of her friends on the team wore them. Denise has run in them pretty consistently with great success. I transitioned too quickly, and developed achilles tendonitis, which I mostly ignored for months (except when it hurt; then I stopped what I was doing), then in November saw an orthopedist, who gave me exercises to do and told me to stop running entirely (in any shoes) or two months. My two months are about up, my tendon is way better, though still a bit swollen (perhaps scar tissue that isn’t going away), and I’m excited to run in my FFs again. Though this time, I will build up gradually, starting with just half a mile, and adding half a mile per week.

Comment on Out of the primordial ooze by Karla

Karla — Wed, 21 Dec 2011 19:52:29 +0000

I love my Vibrams! Mine are blue (http://www.vibramfivefingers.com/products/Five-Fingers-Bikila-Womens.htm). If I buy a new pair, I’ll get the “Flow” which has a thicker sole. My 20-year-old son has those and runs in them. I’ve used mine on the treadmill and on my bike. Oh, and when I had my car inspected a few weeks ago, the young guy who did it was wearing them. So they aren’t just for formerlies. In fact, most women I know don’t like them. (But they haven’t had bunion surgery when they were 20 like I did.) I recently bought a pair of shoes with SIX INCH heels–and sent them back before I broke a hip.

Comment on When “bad” words are good by Jennifer

Jennifer — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 00:22:47 +0000

“And most to the point, is not cursing a sign that you are flat-lining emotionally with age or oversocialization, have simply gotten more polite and respectful, which is good, neither or both?”

I am your age. I didn’t curse when I was young, nor do I now. Before today, I’d never considered that people might consider me emotionally flat because of it. I have been called overly emotional - fewer times than it’s been justified, in truth. So I don’t think cursing is at all related to the intensity of emotion.

Polite and respectful, in my mind, are good. Nobody likes being treated rudely. We don’t like being cut off in traffic, being blamed for things beyond our control, being cursed at, being made to wait by a clerk who is gossiping with her friends, or a myriad of other small annoyances. Why not be polite whenever you can? I appreciate it when a door is held, a car slows to let me merge, someone lets me ahead of her in line because I’m only buying milk when she has a cart full, and a number of other pleasantries. I enjoy extending them to others as well. Pleasant isn’t a bad word, either.

Comment on When “bad” words are good by Lynnea

Lynnea — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 21:32:21 +0000

well, I am more formerly than you are and I still will let one fly when needed. But as with other things in my life having a kid and being a professional I do censor myself. But pity the fool who cuts me off in traffic or hurts someone I love.

Comment on When “bad” words are good by Patty Chang Anker

Patty Chang Anker — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 21:18:56 +0000

Loved this post, Stephanie! Having grown up in the Bronx, I am always one traffic jam away from spewing bad words all over the freakin’ place, but becoming a mother and a yoga teacher has made me much more tempered in most situations. My 10 year old reads what I write and we’re trying to teach her self control and to be able to express herself in polite company, so I have to do the same. I think it is a sign of being Formerly something - free? Rebellious? But I’ll probably end up being a terribly gauche old lady, cursing up a storm!

Comment on In the feast phase by Roberta

Roberta — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 00:27:19 +0000

First, I’m glad to hear that you are getting a lot of work and that’s why you haven’t been around much…I was missing you though.

Second, I understand about the “divorce diet” - been there, done that, bought the skinny jeans. I agree that it wouldn’t be my diet of choice either, although I am sad that the 20 pounds seemed to have reappeared after 5 years.